Mental Gymnastics

Some Useful Dating Advice

One of the most frustrating things about being neurodivergent is how annoying it is to cope with the mental gymnastics that “normies” often engage in. By this, I mean their complete lack of awareness of their own subconscious rationalizations.

For example, imagine your typical normie woman in a happy relationship with an average guy who makes $100k per year - a decent but not outstanding salary in a major city. They own a house and two cars and are considering having kids. Her life isn’t bad, but it isn’t great either. It’s just decent. She’s average looking though, and not particularly smart, so she considers this to be the best that she can do and is content with it.

As an experiment, introduce a sudden change in her options. A wealthy celebrity inexplicably starts courting her. He is way more attractive than her, incredibly wealthy, and seems to be very interested in a relationship. Suddenly, the woman has a better option. Her existing relationship starts to look bad by comparison. She wants to switch to the celebrity. But she doesn’t want to break up with her existing boyfriend, because what if the celebrity isn’t interested in a long-term relationship? The optimal strategy for her to potentially upgrade to a better relationship without endangering her existing relationship is to do some branch swinging. In other words, begin an affair with the wealthy celebrity but avoid breaking up with the boyfriend until she’s certain that the celebrity genuinely wants to be in a long-term relationship with her.